ZX Club #07 28 февраля 1998

Ex Libris - Loneliness - a brief synopsis.

(C) Oleg Krotov


   Greetings to all fans of the Spectrum and
I want to suggest to the court an excerpt from his
diary or a book, call it what you want
called CHOICE. This information is not
all. But only for those who are interested in philosophy, 
psychology, religion. 

   If there are books on this subject, or cassette tapes and 
records with heavy music, with a view to swap to listen, you 
can call 41-93-59 from 19 to 21 to ask Oleg. 



           About D & H O H E S T B O



   A. Heresh - "Together with itself" (overview, outline the 
theme of loneliness without claims to absolute truth). With the 
additions and changes. 


   A man who identified himself as a lonely, not worthy of 
compassion, sympathetic joy and white with envy. Leaving you - 
your friend, because it helps you to find the priceless gift

loneliness. (I'd rather not have such
Friends and such "gifts").

   Like the fear of death, fear of loneliness is one of the 
leading incentive and controls our behavior, actions and

omissions. Like the threat of death, the threat
loneliness, not even only foreseeable,
in huge quantities robs us
energy and vitality. And then it's not
very lonely, and those feelings that it causes. Loneliness, 
like death, it becomes a disaster and a curse; when it is 
properly understood and interpreted. 

   The Company and its individual members respond to the 
mention of loneliness and cultural institutionalized reflex 
which is due to ordinary understanding of loneliness as social 
isolation, a kind of spiritual death caused by the rupture of 
relations with other people. According to this understanding, 
the less you have contacts, the more you alone. In other words, 
the more you chance of dying for the society. (Too simplistic). 
Family Circle - not the most a good place to get rid of 
feelings of loneliness. (A moot point, I think, to a greater 
extent, this depends on the kind of family). Ties of kinship 
bind to many things, and above all - to observe the conventions 
of written and unwritten. In a related communication in the end 
all - the schedule of visits to the expression of feelings

including open arms, kisses, and even fleeting
smile - one way or another to be a strict
ritualization, regulation. Degree
severity can vary from culture to
culture, but the principle remains intact. (But man does not 
need to be understand every second, and even writes

author, with "ritualization and regulation"
you can always find time to communicate and understand, mostly, 
I think it depends on the willingness of partners). Yeah, man 
There is not enough - he needed convincing evidence that it 
actually exists. You are absolutely alone, it must be 
understood. Once a person becomes aware of, it becomes alone. 
And the higher consciousness, the deeper awareness of 
loneliness. So do not run away of this fact in the society of 
friends, associations, and the crowd. Do not run from him! This 
is the greatest phenomenon - the whole process of evolution 
sought to do so. (The first time I meet the idea that 
"evolution tends to loneliness ").


   All nations, families, all groups are made up of cowards, of 
those who are not courage to be alone. True courage - the 
courage to be alone. (I find the courage - the ability to move 
alone, but not the desire for him. Does the author the right to 
blame the cowardice of entire peoples, can it be called 
cowards, the Macedonian phalanx or the legions of Caesar? Those 
who were strong just a feeling its unity, its responsibility for

those around?)

    If you feel your own solitude, you will understand the 
suffering of others. If you can live with the fact of his own 
loneliness, you know that everyone is also lonely. Then the son 
knows that his father alone; wife knows that her husband alone; 
husband knows about the loneliness of his wife. Knowing this, 
it is impossible not to be merciful. 

   King of the absurd Samuel Beckett did not get tired to 
express disagreement with Sartre and Heidegger, who believed

assertiveness in the world almost duty
personality. Because we have believed that
personality, obsessive desire to "leave
trace, "the world is a danger of destruction.
(There is much, probably depends on
what a guy and a trace).

   "The death of each had to leave
one "- once said Solomon Minhoels.
Do not fear death, do we, precisely because
she thought, for lack of other
images of other-worldly existence, as complete
final and irrevocable loneliness?

   Parents tried in vain in childhood
their child, he loves them or not, or
asked to "show" as he likes to Mom and
daddy. He does not like them, though not dare
refuse solicitations: he said to him
too tied to love. Where
dominates the attachment or dependence,
there can not be love. Love - destiny
free people. Do not hurry, loving dad
and my mother. Time of love has not come yet. Come
day when the attachment is gone. That is when your child is 
ripe for true love - through the understanding and acceptance 
of its solitude, independence, freedom of choice.


   In solitude a man, willy-nilly
have to communicate with itself. Strictly speaking, the 
personality - is in the final After all, a form of 
consciousness stay alone themselves.


   Communicating we least think about
to protect his and other people's loneliness from
external interference. On the contrary, we are doing just that 
"heal" from the solitude of self and others, or at least 
conduct in this regard massive prevention. (And what's wrong 
with that?) 

   For an experienced specialist - practices "in
sphere of human relations - is no secret that to normalize 
relations with you wherever harder than other people. (It 
depends on what "you yourself" what the "other people "and 
what" attitude "you want to adjust). 

   Instead teach solitude
taught to depend on the relationships and loyalties.
(Attachment not teach, they either have,
or are not). Yes, you need only to express publicly a loud 
complaint solitude will not be otboyu of craftsmen

all levels, amateurs and professionals,
who in good faith - for money or
pure compassion - will teach a patented way to "make friends 
and influence people", that is tied to learning imagine 
everyone whom you want to yourself bind. (And if people can not,

unwilling or unable to remain with yourself? How can you blame 
people for wanting to communicate with their own kind?) 

   English psychiatrist, Laing argued
that early schizophrenia develops in children
not because of ill-treatment, was thought
before and under the influence of small and seemingly 
imperceptible not confirmed - from nedoslushivany, inattentive 
attitudes, accompanied by attendant smile from cool hand that 
stroked the child's head (see Freud) only for the to get rid of 
him. (The author himself contrary, in fact carried out by 
Statistics proves that not only humans, but even

a small child in need of fellowship,
love, understanding, self-affirmation,
and not a surrogate images of attention, and
in this sense it as a personality,
understanding of his world, his worries, his joys and sorrows).

    If you feel lonely, call a spade a spade. Admit that
you leave, accept that you are on;
Confess that you are not well understood. This means
that your living space shrinks
to the volume of your body. You are driving under the
your own skin, thereby causing the original to understand the 
truth: I - alone. But you soprotivlyaeshsya, you do not want 
this awareness. 

   Do not miss opportunities among prozhit
people quietly and without a trace, do not inherit their
memory and consciousness. Rejoice not his power
over them, and their own self-control,
keeps you from unwanted "contributions"
in their lives. "(This is partly joined to
my theory of "good is not to do evil"
but in principle contradicts the Agni Yoga:
"Everything that does not develop, not evolutive,
inactive - is the debris and be destroyed ").

   And a small digression. Thomas Wolfe - Look Homeward, Angel "
description of the baby's thoughts: "He angrily tried to 
imagine what they would feel if suddenly, guess what he thinks, 
he sometimes laughed at them and over their ridiculous comedy 
of errors when they leaped around him to cheer him, shaking 
their heads and rough it tickled, so he started to laugh 
against her will. His position was both disgusting and 
ridiculous: he sat on the floor and watched as they come, seen 
as a person Each of them is distorted by a silly grin

heard their voices are sweet
and lisp, when they began talking to him
and uttered the words that he did not understand and which they 
mangled into grotesque hope to make clear what has already been

crippled. And despite the disappointment, he did not
could not help laughing over fools. And when
it was left to sleep alone, they possessed
inescapable loneliness and sadness: he saw
his life and realized that he ever
doomed to sadness - locked in this round
a small skull, imprisoned in this fragile, sheltered from all 
the heart, his soul was doomed to wander through the deserted 
roads. Lost! He knew that people always remain strangers to 
each other that no one not able to truly understand the other,

that sharpened in the dark womb we
are born, not knowing of her face that
We are investing in the open arms of strangers, and that
hitting a dead-end prison existence,
we never have to not break away, to whose
hands or hugging us, whose mouth we would not
kissed, whose heart would not have warmed.
Never, never, never. He saw that
thunderous voice, which is meaningless
rumbled over him, much better understood
each other than to understand him, that even their
speech, the ease and freedom of their movements, only
scant means of communication of their thoughts
and feelings and often do not only do not promote
understanding, but rather deepen and harden divisions, hatred 
and prejudice. "